When I was younger, I absolutely lost my shit and laid a verbal smackdown on a boy in a crowded cafeteria. I’m a pretty chill person, and it takes a lot to get me to…
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Imperfect Victims and Villains
One of my friends recently pointed me toward a review of Act Normal. It has one of my favorite observations. The author, Kristy Burmeister, was brutally honest, even when it meant she looked like shit….
Christian Purity Culture Survivors Speak
Last week, I asked a question on social media. For anyone not familiar with purity culture, it’s common within Christian circles. While Christianity has traditionally promoted chastity (as it should), purity culture placed the emphasis…
A Male Supporter’s Guide to #MeToo
It’s been five months since #MeToo was trending. At the time, I saw a lot of men expressing support and asking what they could do. I don’t see those questions being asked now. Women haven’t…
Protecting the Lambs
“Did all that Jesus stuff really happen?” She’s sitting in the next room, watching cartoons. “Did what really what?” I call back, buying myself a few seconds. “Jesus and his mom and his other dad….
Shoulder Check the Patriarchy
In one month, I’ll turn 37. My whole life, ads and TV shows have taught me I’m supposed to be horrified. I mean, I’ve just committed a huge error. I’ve told you all my age….
9 Things I’ve Learned About My Book
We’re three weeks past the launch date for Act Normal. The initial jolt from the launch is over, and it should be pretty steady going forward. I figured this would be a good time to review,…
We Don’t Want to Believe Someone We Like is a Predator
Why is it so hard to believe someone we like is a predator? When we hear a report of predatory behavior about someone we know, our immediate reaction is usually, “What? Him? Not him. I…
Domestic Violence Isn’t the Victim’s Problem. It’s OUR Problem.
I don’t think I need to explain how horrified I was Sunday when I heard about the shooting in Sutherland Springs, Texas. But I’m not just horrified. I’m angry too. We know there’s a link…
Why Did I Write a Memoir?
Before I get into this, I want to congratulate Tanya Marlow. Her new book, Those Who Wait: Finding God in Disappointment, Doubt and Delay, launched today. So I bet you can guess what I’ll be reading…