Why You Won’t Hear My Testimony

I’ve been pretty tight-lipped about what I’ve been up to lately on the organized religion front. Over the past few years, I’ve been exploring some options, and I’ve been taking my dear, sweet time about it. When it comes to religion, I move slowly, and that’s OK. Making that sort of a commitment is a big deal. I’ve made some changes, but I’m not going…

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Imperfect Victims and Villains

One of my friends recently pointed me toward a review of Act Normal. It has one of my favorite observations. The author, Kristy Burmeister, was brutally honest, even when it meant she looked like shit. I love it because this person got it. It’s true. Sometimes I’m kind of a shitty person. I’m impulsive. I’m waaaaaaay too snarky. I do things I know I shouldn’t…

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Christian Purity Culture Survivors Speak

Last week, I asked a question on social media. For anyone not familiar with purity culture, it’s common within Christian circles. While Christianity has traditionally promoted chastity (as it should), purity culture placed the emphasis on virginity and purity rather than ongoing chastity. Books like I Kissed Dating Goodbye and popular evangelical movements like True Love Waits are part of Christian purity culture. Many Christian…

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A Male Supporter’s Guide to #MeToo

It’s been five months since #MeToo was trending. At the time, I saw a lot of men expressing support and asking what they could do. I don’t see those questions being asked now. Women haven’t forgotten. We don’t have the luxury of forgetting. I hope our male friends and supporters haven’t forgotten either. Five months ago, you wanted to know what you could do to…

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Protecting the Lambs

“Did all that Jesus stuff really happen?” She’s sitting in the next room, watching cartoons. “Did what really what?” I call back, buying myself a few seconds. “Jesus and his mom and his other dad. Did all the Bible stuff really happen like that?” She’s watching The Star. We watched it last night, and she hadn’t asked any questions then. Apparently, she liked the movie…

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9 Things I’ve Learned About My Book

We’re three weeks past the launch date for Act Normal. The initial jolt from the launch is over, and it should be pretty steady going forward. I figured this would be a good time to review, especially since I was extra lazy and never even wrote a post for the actual launch date. (In my defense, I was busy drawing toilets in books, as requested.) So,…

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My Greatest Temptation

When we talk about temptation, we’re usually talking about vices. My biggest temptation doesn’t look like anything obviously sinful. It looks like an Instagram picture of a clean table (with no leftover jelly smears), a leather bound Bible, and a cup of coffee, with the caption, “Quiet time with Our Lord.” My biggest temptation takes the form of a cozy, comfortable, easy, middle-class life. Because…

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Mandatory Year-end Blog Post 2017

  Well, hot dang, y’all. I finished my memoir this year. It’ll be available in January 2018. I actually started working on it during Lent of 2015, so I’ve been working on this for over three years. That was a long three years. I’m really excited to finally be done. Well, done with this book. I’m just getting started on a novel. Earlier this year,…

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We Don’t Want to Believe Someone We Like is a Predator

Why is it so hard to believe someone we like is a predator? When we hear a report of predatory behavior about someone we know, our immediate reaction is usually, “What? Him? Not him. I like him.” Maybe it’s a celebrity you’ve been following for years. Maybe it’s a well-respected member of your congregation. Maybe it’s your best friend. We just can’t believe it. And…

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