Christian Purity Culture Survivors Speak

Last week, I asked a question on social media. For anyone not familiar with purity culture, it’s common within Christian circles. While Christianity has traditionally promoted chastity (as it should), purity culture placed the emphasis on virginity and purity rather than ongoing chastity. Books like I Kissed Dating Goodbye and popular evangelical movements like True Love Waits are part of Christian purity culture. Many Christian…

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We Don’t Want to Believe Someone We Like is a Predator

Why is it so hard to believe someone we like is a predator? When we hear a report of predatory behavior about someone we know, our immediate reaction is usually, “What? Him? Not him. I like him.” Maybe it’s a celebrity you’ve been following for years. Maybe it’s a well-respected member of your congregation. Maybe it’s your best friend. We just can’t believe it. And…

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How to Help a Friend Who is Being Stalked

Take it seriously. The first thing you have to understand is that stalking is a pattern of behavior, not a one-time incident. Your friend may tell you she’s afraid because her stalker left dead flowers on her porch. That may sound minor to you, but what you don’t know is that her stalker has also been calling just to wake her up every night at…

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Collateral Damage of Stalking (Guest Post)

I’ve read a lot about stalkers, stalkees, PTSD, and pies (because who doesn’t like reading about various pies?) One thing that bugs me is the lack of information about people who are close to a stalking victim. They live through these experiences alongside the victim and it impacts their lives too. You don’t have to be the direct target of stalking to be hurt by…

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